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Loneliness
January 26, 2015
3:40 pm
Billy28
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Hi everyone.
Does any one struggle with being with their own company a lot? Would love to hear peoples thoughts and experiences on this.

Thank you

January 28, 2015
10:52 pm
Thomas Grainger
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Billy28 said

Hi everyone.
Does any one struggle with being with their own company a lot? Would love to hear peoples thoughts and experiences on this.

Thank you

This is an excellent question. The psychology behind this is quite interesting:

1. When in the grips of an eating disorder, you begin to isolate yourself more and more to be able to control your environment and restrict eating/ conduct your eating rituals.
2. You feel less likely to want to socialise as your mood drops further.
3. Innate feelings of loneliness build up inside, but the problem is that you, quite often, are in fact alone, which makes it more difficult.

Being alone with yourself and eating disordered thoughts can be very triggering. Finding a balance is essential. Socialising with family and friends every week is a must BUT, running from your thoughts and feelings through social events won't work in the long term either.

What are people's thoughts?

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January 30, 2015
9:48 pm
Billy28
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I agree. I have quite a solo job but I do push myself to get out there and see people each day.

For the past two years when Christmas holidays are here and there are more people around and the environment is more relaxed I have found that's when I have made the most positive progress in recovery in a 2-3 week period. Sadly though when things have gone back to usual work ect it gets a lot more challenging.

Yes having the main company being the Eating Disorder sucks.

It is important to keep in touch with others to not get too rapped up in the condition/illness.

January 30, 2015
9:52 pm
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It can make us see and think things (negative) about ourselves that aren't really true. But it can be so powerful and that's why its important to trust those who understand and can see the reality. The ones that love and support you. The ones that care about you.

February 12, 2015
12:25 am
Thomas Grainger
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Billy28 said

It can make us see and think things (negative) about ourselves that aren't really true. But it can be so powerful and that's why its important to trust those who understand and can see the reality. The ones that love and support you. The ones that care about you.

Completely agree, If you find yourself slipping back when not exposed to other people and environments, then this is a clear sign that you need to do your absolute best to be around people as much as possible, at least whilst steal dealing with your eating disorder thoughts. Don't forget that you can always jump online like we're doing here. Journalling is also great, or why not start a blog post, a youtube channel or another creative communicative outlet that will help you work through the thoughts and concerns that arise whilst networking with likeminded people who understand your illness wholeheartedly.

Cheers

Thomas

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February 14, 2015
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Billy28
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When you say journaling do you mean like writing a daily diary?

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